How To
Criticize
Learn How To Criticize And Still Be
Nice...
Have you ever encountered an experience when
someone told you how fat you've become? Maybe your boss have
commented on how bad your work turned out to be.
Maybe you've heard from other folks how
people view you as cold and unapproachable.
Criticism Hurts, doesn't it?
Believe it or not, some people can be so
tactless that they are not even aware when they've hurt
anyone's feelings.
The receiving parties, especially the sensitive
ones, would be offended by their remarks. This would result in
conflicts and arguments.
You know you're doing them a big favor by saving them from
shame or disappointment, but would they realize your good
intentions instead of feeling hurt by your brutally frank
comments or advices?
They might probably think you're too rude or impolite. But
what can you do if you really need to assert an honest
criticism, but you're afraid of hurting others'
feelings?
Want to know the secret? Learn how to criticize.
All you have to do is sandwich your negative
comment between two positive remarks...
For example, your best friend Paul is going
on his very first date. He's all excited and raring to go. Now
Paul doesn't have any fashion sense. He's wearing a bland shirt
and old jeans.
You know all along how he hates to admit that
he's wrong. So what will you do to save Paul from an
embarrassing first date?
Would you say to him that the outfit he's
wearing is repulsive? That would hurt his ego.
Well, you can first point out the things that
you like in his overall appearance. Comment on his well-groomed
hair.
Tell him he looks cool when wearing his
sunglasses. Ask him where he bought his perfume because it can
certainly attract women like bees to honey. Be sincere
and honest.
Then, insert in a nice and suave manner your
point of view and advice. You can tell him something
like:
"Your shirt seems to be very comfortable to
wear, Paul. Since this is your very first date, I think Sandra
(his date) will be much more impressed if you would wear
something like the outfit that you wore on my
birthday.
You look smashing when you put on clothes
like that."
Afterwards, make another positive
statement. You could say something like:
"You would definitely make a big impact on
Sandra. She would fall heads over heels over your gorgeous
appearance and cheerful personality. Have a great time on your
date, Paul."
Do you think Paul would be offended by such
pleasant comments? Not a chance. You have wittingly inserted a
slightly negative feedback into a plethora of acceptable and
ego-boosting remarks.
People love compliments.
They believe they got the qualities. They want other people to
intensify the great abilities that they believe to
possess.
People wanted to hear their greatness
purported from someone else's mouth, and they would be very
glad if other individuals would know about it.
Before you criticize anybody, you
need to know how to criticize. Remember to praise him
first. It will leave a positive impression that you're
a nice guy.
Then say what you have to say, but in a
smooth and non-offensive manner. Finalize with another positive
reinforcement to establish a foundation of goodwill.
How To Criticize And Still Be
Nice
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